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The Living Life Series is dedicated to Lord Bo Tien (武天菩萨). The doctrine is in His image. The image is the doctrine. He who sees, understands and effects the doctrine sees and knows Him. He who does not see, know and effect the doctrine sees not and knows not the saint even if the saint or His image is beside him. The far may be near and the near may be far. Let the doctrine and the saint be part of our life. The lord saint in your life can be any heavenly saint of any religion, sect or school. The doctrine of truth is behind all and this is the Inner Truth that leads all (regardless of their religious affiliation or even if none) to inner peace and heaven on earth here and now and not just in the after life. The ideal worship and devotion is to know and effect the doctrine of God and the saints. The best gospel is the gospel of life. We learn from our life and the lives of others. The true temple is the world we live in. The sky is the roof of the temple and religions and sects are the pillars of the temple. All under Heaven are in the temple. Needless to say that all the saints we know are in this temple. Ji Gong Posat too is no exception. The whole wide world and web is the temple and must be regarded as a sacred place --- a temple for living and learning. It is more important that everyone that counts plays a role in this universal temple if due focus is to be given to the Mission of Heaven. Men must not be distracted by the agenda of men and end up serving the mission of man. That would be a far cry from the Mission of Heaven. We worship God and saints, not man however good that man may be. There should be no hero worshiping or idolizing of man whether he is a charismatic pastor, priest, monk, medium or lay leader. We don't even idol worship the image of any saint but reflect on what the image stands for. - the doctrine in the image. Omitofo 阿弥陀佛!.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Neither crave or rave nor stave off life

 No 246 of Living Life Series 1 






There is one view point of life which many must consider from time to time. How do we relate to others? Do we go all the way to please others or do we stay away and be aloof?  The wise would just flow along but not be swept by the tide and be tossed around. 

Talk only if needed. Avoid frivolity and gossip that will sow discord and that may be exciting somewhat for the present but will reflect adversely on us with time. Just let others talk and show interest where appropriate. People prefer to talk than to be talked to.

Often, people prefer to engage you than for you to engage them. They want good listeners and others as vent points and not you make vent points out of them. Others often want good listeners in you and want you to be receptive and not the other way round. Let this be food for thought.

Do you listen or expect others to listen? Who is likely to give himself away the listener or the talker? Perhaps you should strike the balance by being better at listening than talking. That way there will be more accord than discord with others.

A good leader, therapist or society man  listens to others more than he expects others to listen to him. But he cannot be dumb or others will find him dull and boring company. He cannot talk more than listen or others may find him an irritant and noisy, a noise pollutant of sorts. This is the balanced approach as depicted by the seated image of Lord Bo Tien with both feet atop the elements.  The point of balance does not need to be the middle point though.

We do need to engage prudently with others and with society and that will make us grow as individuals. But we need to do so correctly.  Don't try to be needy and often that will put others on guard as to your intentions. Make others need us more than we need them.


In any aspect of life, there is of course
the balance point for optimal effect 
but this need not be the average or middle point
as depicted in seated image of the lord saint.
Often, for equilibrium and peace
this is not a fixed point
but a shifting point


After all, we must be asset to others in order for others to want to be with us. Often, we will then be pleasant company to others. This may seem discomforting but don't forget that the best asset is to be an asset to own self before one can be asset and be welcome by others.

Don't appear too needy and for the businessman, this is very true as often, he may end up losing a deal. But if the businessman's clientele needs him more than he needs them, then more deals will be forthcoming and come to him.

The same applies to friendship. Make others want you more and more friends you will have. Focus on the interests of others and that will make others open up with you. Do not rattle way with your own interests or worst still with your problems. That will put off others who may find you too emotional and they will not want to be taken on a emotional roller coaster ride with your personal issues.

Be a candle to light up and attract others to you. Be a beacon of  truth of life to others. This is what Lord Bo Tien said. You must somehow light up their lives and they will come round you. 

In short, don't be needy. Make it the other way round. Others must  need us more. But do not crave and expect too much. Go easy and be at peace with what you can have when relating with others. 

Look at the pluses in any aspect of your life, be it work, friendship etc, and there will be cheer. Look at the minus points, and the plus points seem to be not there. Then misery you will end up with, even if your life is nine pluses out of ten. Do feel good and be at peace.

Let God and saints enable your life. Your life is like a lemon tree. You can have lemon but you must be at peace so that you can have water and sugar from God to have the lemonade of life. Do  not crave for the pluses you are yet to have. Be at peace and trust your life to God and be thankful for the many pluses you already have. But rave not over the pluses though but treasure them in quiet and calm way. 

The greatest plus is the chance to learn, to make good and to move on in life. Crave and rave are best be kept at bay if we have our way.  We must move on, to feel life and the joy of just living and be at peace come what may. Don't crave or rave but do not stop moving in life. That will be to stave off life and to stop living even when still alive.

Neither crave or rave nor stave off life. Then optimal balance you will have and peace you will have ever more when you are attuned to God and saints by neither fighting with life nor leaving life but ever at ease with life. God bless.




Crave --- to have an intense desire for
Rave  --- to talk wildly, as in delirium. 
               to talk with extravagant enthusiasm
Stave off - to put off or to keep off, as by force or evasion

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