No 264 of Living Life Series 1
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Those who are sharp in tongue may be hurtful and be pain in the neck but the issue is not to try to correct them but how not to give back to them what they give to us. Give not to others what we do not like them to give to us. This is reiterated by God and saints like Lord Jesus.
How do we help ourselves in such situations so that we are also helping them as well? One way is to not to engage in unpleasantries but be pleasant to them even if they are not to us.
They may talk down to us but should we talk down to them or talk up to them? Either way would be futile for the consequences will still be unpleasant even if we have our way.
Return unpleasantries with pleasantries. Appreciate their frustrations but this is different from agreeing or disagreeing with them.
Neither go for tic for tac nor offer the right cheek to be slapped when the left cheek was slapped. The latter would be unwise unless in exceptional circumstances.
Try to feel sorry for them for being disturbed in mind and consider if it is worthwhile to explain to them that they should not have done or spoken the way they do, especially when they are hurtful just to tell others they are right and others wrong.
Telling others that they have erred may not reflect well on us but instead say that they need help and assistance and we certainly will help them when the opportunities arise.
Thank those who bring their caustic remarks to your attention and that is all that we need to do at that point in time. Don't retaliate by trying to be defensive or offensive for in both ways we will not look good. Both ways do not promote goodwill, peace and also not wholesome.
Be wholesome in responding to ill will. Be right and wise and this can be achieved by being peaceful and helpful in whatever way we can both to the offensive ones and to those third parties who ferry the ill wind to us. All these are common sense if we have the little goodwill and wisdom in us. The reality is that truth is as simple as that but appears complex and difficult to perceive when we are in throes and woes of life - when we are carried away by our emotions. (Do refer to the quote by P.Philip*)
The way others conduct themselves and affect us are good for us to understand and learn from. We learn from the good and not so good of our fellow men and both their good and misdemeanors in life are valuable lessons of truth in the gospel of life. This did Lord Bo Tien remind us in one of his anniversary messages.
This is how we can turn setbacks and adverse encounters into advantage and blessings. The wise ones see blessings even in every ill fate and ill wind.
Whilst we should try to avoid unpleasantness, sometimes they are unavoidable. Then, do value them as opportunities for us to improve and make good both in secular and spiritual life.
Cheers dear friends. Our so-called foes or to put in nicer way our unfriendly brothers can turn out to be a blessing to us if they give us opportunities to learn and be wiser. If we do it right, they will be unfriendly no more but our friends.
That is the way we should love life and have peace of spirit. That way we will be loved not only by men but by God and saints. The candle light of our life will glow with love and glow even more with shelter by God and saints. This too did Lord Bo Tien say. Cheers once again.
Who is Lord Bo Tien? A picture is better than a thousand words. The doctrine is in the image and the image is the doctrine. How to balance our life and be peaceful is in the image. We would then be graceful to others even if they are spiteful at times.
The lord saints of God Almighty are like the big oceans of blessings for us and no amount of spite will stir up the mud in our life. Lord Bo Tien is one such saint. Big issues will be small issues even if they cannot be no issue. Thus did Lord Bo Tien remind us.
The lord saints of God Almighty are like the big oceans of blessings for us and no amount of spite will stir up the mud in our life. Lord Bo Tien is one such saint. Big issues will be small issues even if they cannot be no issue. Thus did Lord Bo Tien remind us.
The doctrine is in the image and the image is the doctrine. |
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*Only the wise seek the fulfilment of ancient wisdom. Yet the profound truth is so simple but difficult to perceive. P. Philip
*Only the wise seek the fulfilment of ancient wisdom. Yet the profound truth is so simple but difficult to perceive. P. Philip