No 1167 of Living Life Series 1
Who to blame if children grow up and want to be on their own whether they get married or remain single? They leave parents lost and lonely in old age.
In the first place why do men go for less children say one or two per family. Also why do they go independent from their parents and don't go for extended family households?
Unlike monks who need to be celibate or monks who can have family but opt for less children to be more monks and more time for spiritual, the majority who are not monks want easy time to indulge in material life.
Often there is very little and perhaps nothing to do with spiritual. They are either singles or have hardly any children. They suffer less by sacrificing less and that able to indulge more by being singles or have small families for now when still young.
They do not consider marriage as a means of doing good by giving more chances for those waiting to be born as humans to be humans. Many are waiting to be born as humans.
But fate will catch up with them. When old, the one or two children they have could hardly support themselves let alone upkeep the parents. The children may be burden to the old parents if they have difficulties and cannot fend for themselves.
That is problem of having too few children. Then their woe extends beyond this life. When they passed on and cannot be in heaven, they have to compete with many to have chance to be humans once more.
Who to blame then? Do we blame the children for being unfilial? Do we blame the parents? Well, it seems that all can be blamed. Will blaming help in any way?
Perhaps the parents are to be blamed for not acceding to the ancestral culture of having more children and staying in big extended family households. Nations can go downhill because of this. Isn't this decadence of sorts?
Religion can make matters worse. Religion of men may try to convince us that as a religious community, we are all children of God. We are all family. Religion more so the evangelical ones want people to be away from culture and families to be with the house of God.
Religion even provides material indulgences in the house of God. There are cell groups and many spend most of their free time in house of God and cell groups.
What religion should stress on is the family and the spiritualization of the family so that through the family life, people can cultivate spirituality. But alas this is unlikely in people of most religions.
Why is this so? Well to be blunt, we can say this pointblank. Men run religions. Religions do not run men - the lives of men.
Thus with men running religions, do we expect men to be spiritual and less worldly? Do we expect men to be more God-worthy? Men end up more worldly instead. Who to blame? Why blame?
The good lord Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 says that one can be spiritual and be enlightened even without being a monk or priest. We do not need to be monks or nuns to be spiritual.
We do not even need to be in religion because instead of renunciation of worldly when in religion, we end up indulging in the worldly. That is sad. Who to blame and why blame?
Renunciation is not physical or social. It is not denial of life. It is not indulgence or excesses. Both are not renunciation.
It is to embrace life correctly. It is to be with life and learn from life - neither running or indulging but moderating, avoiding extremes and being atop life.
It is to embrace life correctly. It is to be with life and learn from life - neither running or indulging but moderating, avoiding extremes and being atop life.
We can be enlightened by being what we are. There is no need to give up being who we are, our family, our parents and what we are born into.
There is need to learn from life and be wiser and better from the learning. We must be better at what we are - better at being family men if we are family men. We can do so through any religion or even without one.
This is the message of Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨. No need to regret. No need to blame. Just know how to learn from life and be better at life - neither being monks or nuns nor hanker after more haves in worldly life.
Who to blame and why blame? Men even hanker for more haves in worldly life even in religion. This is simply that pathetic. Who to blame? Why blame?
The man who is in religion may be near to God but yet far from God than the man who is not in a religion. The near is far and the far near. Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 wants us to reflect on this - to meditate on this.
Think clearly and know the truth of life - the nature of life. This is what we need to do to be better at what we are - regardless of who we are and the religion we are in and even if none we have.
This is the logic or Tao 道 in life and is behind all religions. Then there is no issue of who to blame and why blame. There will be more peace in life come what may.
There is no need in the first place to blame anyone even ourselves. Blaming is ill-will and dislike for others or self. How to be at peace and be spiritual with blame mentality? Love life and not hate. No blame please.
Who to blame and why blame? Men even hanker for more haves in worldly life even in religion. This is simply that pathetic. Who to blame? Why blame?
The man who is in religion may be near to God but yet far from God than the man who is not in a religion. The near is far and the far near. Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 wants us to reflect on this - to meditate on this.
Think clearly and know the truth of life - the nature of life. This is what we need to do to be better at what we are - regardless of who we are and the religion we are in and even if none we have.
This is the logic or Tao 道 in life and is behind all religions. Then there is no issue of who to blame and why blame. There will be more peace in life come what may.
There is no need in the first place to blame anyone even ourselves. Blaming is ill-will and dislike for others or self. How to be at peace and be spiritual with blame mentality? Love life and not hate. No blame please.