There are two advice by heavenly saints which we must bear in mind.
Like heavenly saints, elders must bless those who are in their guidance. Guidance does not mean they run the lives of those under their guidance.
This would create problems such as crutch mentality, lack of self development and tendency to seek opinion and doing what the elder says instead of doing what the individual thinks is what he wants to do.
This will create problems. There will be conflicts in the individual - conflict between doing what the individuals wants to do with what he is doing to please his mentor. The individual may end up a mental wreck.
Thus a heavenly saint like Ji Gong (济公) provides blessings so that the individual has congenial environment to move on in life. He does not dictate and advise that we do not dictate those we want to help in what to do and not do. We do not run their lives. In short, we should be helpful but leave them to run their own lives.
This will create problems. There will be conflicts in the individual - conflict between doing what the individuals wants to do with what he is doing to please his mentor. The individual may end up a mental wreck.
Ji Gong (济公) |
The other advice is by Lord Bo Tien (武天菩萨). Loving kindness or love for beings does not mean we love only those who have done right but even love those who have not been right.
Thus there is no need to put people in fear or guilt for their wrong or the not-so-right. There is no place for blame and guilt. This will stifle the individual and the individual ends up unsure of what to do, how to move on in life and keeps looking over his shoulders to see if he has done wrong and he develops tendency to wallow in self blame.
Lord Bo Tien (武天菩萨) |
He ends up not loving himself more and cannot harness properly the love of God and saints as well as the love of significant others, all because of fear, guilt, self blame and fear of being blamed.
The individual who wants to make headway in life should be liberated by love and not tied down and hampered by love, be it love of God and saints or the love of elders or parents. As the saying goes that if we love someone, we set him free.
The individual who wants to make headway in life should be liberated by love and not tied down and hampered by love, be it love of God and saints or the love of elders or parents. As the saying goes that if we love someone, we set him free.