Nuclearisation of family not good in the long term

No 1272 of Living Life Series 1

Do we need to be alone? Do we need to be with others? Why do we work? Why do we have family and relatives? 

Is it so that we will not be alone. Then, why must there be nuclear families when we need to be with others? 

Why did the good lord Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 says that we need to learn from one another? 

Then isn't living in big extended family good and working in big institution good? Well, somehow while people want to work in big institutions with many colleagues, they would rather stay separate from their siblings, parents, cousins and grand parents. 

In the old days, people even have many wives so that they have really big families under same roof.  A village or town will have a few or at most a dozen such families. They are close knit though they have the run of mill problems among men. 

Nowadays, such village size families no longer exist except in the rural areas in some countries. Instead, we have newly married couples staying on their own even if they do not even have children as yet. 

What has become of Man as a species? Well, this takes the good lord Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 to tell us that a bunch of candle lights is better and more effective in shinning up life than a solitary candle. 

If the good lord says so, is Divinity trying to tell us to think hard to deliberate how we should live and what type of family life we should have? 

The fragmentation or nuclearisation is not necessarily good, or is it? Well, living in big family is not easy as there is  need for a lot of give and take. But isn't that how we grow, learn and mature in life? 

Then for goodness sake, why withdraw into the shell and have nuclear families? Splitting up matter into atoms and splitting up the atom into nuclear particles can result in instability and can be explosive and potentially destructive in consequences. 

It will result in parents rejecting children once they reach young adulthood. These young adults would when they grow older then go one step further. 

They naturally don't even want to be married. They shun binary relationships. They shun wedlocks. 

They rather be single, free and easy, let alone have children. What would become of humanity? 

The light of the single candle can be easily blown out. But the light of a bunch of candles are not so easily blown out. However, too many candles can cause meltdown of candles if they are not spaced and balanced out. 

Is the good lord Lord Bo Tien 武天菩萨 trying to tell us how to change our destiny. Big family is good. Single is out. Two or nuclear is not good in the long run. 

Some balance and in between is needed. There must be balance - to be exact yin yang balance like depicted in the Bagua and its Taiji and the eight trigrams. 

Taiji

Bagua

Some can balance with more numbers and some with less. No exact formula. Nothing fixed. Nothing rigid. People are different. That is why religions are different but yet one in God and in truth. 

Nuclearisation of family is not good in the long term. Religion has to some extent take on the role of denuclearisation. Religion has to provide the big extended family advantage - the substitute missing in nuclear families. The culture of cell groups or self help groups is evidence of this.

Religion mitigates the lack of extended big family but is never ever a proper replacement. So humanity must have wake-up call and move away from nuclearisation. 

Nuclearisation erodes away family structure. It breaks up the living family tree and disperse them in bits and pieces across the land. It is not only destructive in long term but can explode and wipe out what humanity stands for. That is pathetic isn't it?