No 1473 of Living Life Series 1
Tao is God. Tao is cause and effect.
We must not be obsessed by wanting which is regarded as yang or aggressiveness in Dao Di Jing, the summary collection of thinking of sages by imperial court librarian Lao Tse in the few thousand years before him.
We must not be carried away by receiving which is yin or receptiveness. Yin and yang are polar opposites.
We must find the balance, move along in peace with life without being carried away by wanting and receiving, without incessant male aggressiveness as well as being carried away by its polarity of docility or femaleness.
Only then can we stand still while yin and yang go round and round but we do not go round and create more unrest and swirls.
The human couple must find balance to have peace and harmony.
Those who are celibate and not married like priests must not force their religion on others especially more so the followers in their respective religion or temple on one hand and on the other hand they must not act to please them even if their followers are wrong. They must find the balance and find peace by avoiding aggressive yang and and submissive yin.
As with regards to those who are not priests, it is not uncommon to find ladies trying to be more man than woman. Gentlemen too may try to be more female or yin than having yang maleness. The outcome is breakup and disharmony in family as well as the risk of homosexuality and lesbian overtures and adventurism.
As opposed to the days of old, young people once they grow up and start to have their own jobs, want to stay away from parents and live on their own. Previously, it was the norm to stay with parents even if they got married.
The risk of independence and privacy of staying away from parents is that harmony and peace will be hard to achieve.
Somehow there must be a way to find new balance of yin and yang. The new balance of yin and yang is to have nuclear families or bachelor homes but to visit and sometimes stay with parents in the homes of parents. This can be the new norm - the new balance of yin and yang to have peace and harmony in the big family.
The parents must realise this reality. Do not anxiously wait for the visits of your children. They have their own lives to take care of. They are like tops being spun continuously. They are sandwiched between even the younger (their children) and the old.
The old one is the evening sun wheraas the the young is the is the morning sun. Of course, the young will get more attention. This is nature's law. It is human race survival cycle and no one can defy it. Please remember that the young grown ups will always be more busy than the oldies.
But isn't that not much difference from animals though much better. Cannot humans be much better than animals and not just better.
No wonder, Bo Tien 武 天 stresses on yin and yang and to learn from life. This is so that everyone can be better at than they are.