No 820 of Living Life Series 1
Let us get it right with regards to Respect for Elders and there is no better occasion to do so than the Lunar New Year. The celebration of the Lunar New Year is centered on respect for elders. Elders are givers and we are the receivers of blessings on this festive day.
There is a saying of common Chinese men in the street that puts the problem of lack of respect for elders squarely and bluntly. "Those who do not view elders as elders are those who don't even recognize their own home."
They often do not know how to give way to elders but compete with and challenge them instead. They do not even have the grace to let elders have some leeway.
They are not uncommon even in a religious organization. In fact, like what the good lord Lord Bo Tien (武天菩萨) says that ants and insects are attracted to the flower and we should not blame the flower for ants and insects coming to it. Sadly, religion will always attract more of the undesirable than the desirable but perhaps this is the reason why religion is for in the first place.
If such characters have some sense of religiosity or morality, they will likely be graceful towards elders, and will humor the elders even if they do not see eye to eye with them and even if they find a elder an eye sore and a pain in the neck.
If such characters have some sense of religiosity or morality, they will likely be graceful towards elders, and will humor the elders even if they do not see eye to eye with them and even if they find a elder an eye sore and a pain in the neck.
Respect for elders means to be at peace with them even if they have erred and no longer assets to society. Respect for elders would include society at large trying to please the elders without going along with or perpetuating the perceived wrong of the elders.
No matter what, men should always give way to elders and let them to have the seat and have their say. But this may not be the case.
If some men cannot accommodate them, and are adverse to them and find them too opinionated, they must realize that they have a problem. The problem may well lie more with them than the elders.
That is the very reason why the sages of old advise us to always be kind to elders by at least just having a listening ear for elders but where possible, we must accommodate them and their views. This, all right minded will do unless somehow they lack grey matter, common sense and do not know how to go for the middle ground by having give and take mentality.
We must get it correct with regards to Respect for Elders. Lunar New Year would be meaningless if there is no respect for elders and we must be reminded on this.
We must get it correct with regards to Respect for Elders. Lunar New Year would be meaningless if there is no respect for elders and we must be reminded on this.