No 1449 of Living Life Series 1
When we are doing too many activities and preoccupied with life, and others too are also engrossed with life and multi-tasking, communication with others can be flawed.
We tend to assume they know what we want. Others too will think we know what they mean and want.
So both parties speak in few words and are brief to point of being vague. This leaves a lot to imagination.
Both parties misconstrue and the result is that both are taken aback when the outcome does not turn out to be what each party expected. This is due to fast pace of life which does little for inner peace.
Sometimes, in life we have to pause and reflect. If this somehow cannot be done, keep silence and do not rock the boat when there is actually no storm in the first place. The rock may sink if it is rocked too often. We will then get a sinking feeling in life.
There is lack of inner peace to begin with. We must start every moment with inner peace, live through the moment in peace and end it with peace to go through the next moment in the same way.
Then, we are not in a world of our own and able to decide if the other party is at peace for us to communicate with. Either we keep silence till the other party is ready and at peace, or we speak out slowly what we want clearly, step by step and give no room to misunderstanding.
These two alternatives require us to be at peace to decide how we proceed. We have to think and be mindful before we speak and do.
If there is no peace in us, better to keep silence and just listen. The other party too may not be ready as not at peace. This too we must consider.
Inner peace is everything we we need to have in life for us to do anything. We want peace. We need inner peace in daily life and in spiritual.
When people say they want to be at peace with God, it is the same inner peace that makes us at peace with life. Some refer to this as to be filled with the peace of the Holy Spirit. Some refer to this as clarity or insight of mind - mindfulness that leads to sainthood. It is a matter of semantics.
We tend to assume they know what we want. Others too will think we know what they mean and want.
So both parties speak in few words and are brief to point of being vague. This leaves a lot to imagination.
Both parties misconstrue and the result is that both are taken aback when the outcome does not turn out to be what each party expected. This is due to fast pace of life which does little for inner peace.
Sometimes, in life we have to pause and reflect. If this somehow cannot be done, keep silence and do not rock the boat when there is actually no storm in the first place. The rock may sink if it is rocked too often. We will then get a sinking feeling in life.
There is lack of inner peace to begin with. We must start every moment with inner peace, live through the moment in peace and end it with peace to go through the next moment in the same way.
Then, we are not in a world of our own and able to decide if the other party is at peace for us to communicate with. Either we keep silence till the other party is ready and at peace, or we speak out slowly what we want clearly, step by step and give no room to misunderstanding.
These two alternatives require us to be at peace to decide how we proceed. We have to think and be mindful before we speak and do.
If there is no peace in us, better to keep silence and just listen. The other party too may not be ready as not at peace. This too we must consider.
Inner peace is everything we we need to have in life for us to do anything. We want peace. We need inner peace in daily life and in spiritual.
When people say they want to be at peace with God, it is the same inner peace that makes us at peace with life. Some refer to this as to be filled with the peace of the Holy Spirit. Some refer to this as clarity or insight of mind - mindfulness that leads to sainthood. It is a matter of semantics.
Religions appear different because of semantics but they are referring to the usual same thing which is inner peace.
The same truth is somehow present in all religions but people being what they are may not realise this when they are passionate with their religion.
They will find excuses to show religions are different. Reality is that religions are same and different at the same time. They are same in core basics but are different in approaches and styles. Purpose is to reach out to the masses across the globe.
Problem is that when we say all religions are the same, those in the religion we are in will think that we are mistaken and need to be counselled.
The fascinating part is the fact that they are the ones who need to be counselled. But how to counsel so many?
Best is to let them be and keep the peace. When they are ready, then speak a word or two with them to test if they are ready. If not, then we shut up and not cause upsets for them. We do not want even to cause storms in a teacup. We need peace.
This assertion by Bo Tien 武 天 that all religions and cultures are trying to bring more to be at peace with life and also with life beyond life. There is need for peace in the moment and in the many moments that follow. There is need for peace in life and in the many lives that follow.
We cannot be self-serving and we cannot be serving but end up denying on self. We need to love ourselves but not end up at others' expense. We cannot love others but not love ourselves. There must be balance to have inner peace. We indulge nor deny ourselves or others. We must be balanced.
We want peace but do we know how to have this? We think we do but this is when we don't really know. That is why many argue till kingdom come and when they do this, they are not at peace, and do not know or know too little. Isn't this true? Do reflect on the know-how and the do-not.
Silence often is golden and an attitude of give-and-take (much akin to forgiveness) may often be the way out. Often it is not forgiveness because the party whom we think is at fault may be right in his own way. We may be the ones who have erred. We can only hope the other party too has the give-and-take attitude.
To be at peace requires clear thinking. Without inner peace, there can be no clear thinking. Ironically, without clear thinking, there is no peace. The stop gap or interim measure is to remain silent and not fan up any unpleasantness.
One less word even if we cannot be silent will go a long way to ensure that a fire do not end up as a beyond control bushfire that can escalate to engulf a whole forest.
This applies to any aspect of life, be it religion, family or working life. We want peace but often in the heat of the moment, we do not know how to have this.
Just keep the gap shut and not add fuel to fire. Let the fire dissipate and fizzle out. Let there be at least a cooling off period of sorts.
There is the exception when there is no need to keep the gap shut. But we must be perfect with imperfection - peaceful even if there are upheavals. A saint may want to shake up mankind and he can do it well in peace even with those battling among themselves.
But for folks like us, we cannot do so. We are no saviors for ourselves, let alone try to wake up everyone. Saints are different and can keep the peace and change men.
We cannot keep our own peace and what we do may tear our limited peace to pieces and shreds. How can we change people for the better and bring about peace for others?
We want peace but do we know how to do this? Do not be conceited and be carried away and think we can be like the saints and prophets.
If we do what they did, we will undo what they did. Isn't this pathetic? We are no saints - not even a wee bit saintly for now and in the foreseeable future.
That is the reality we must know and be humble about it. Do not exalt ourselves only to be humbled. Do humble ourselves and others will appreciate us better. The humble will be exalted.
The fascinating part is the fact that they are the ones who need to be counselled. But how to counsel so many?
Best is to let them be and keep the peace. When they are ready, then speak a word or two with them to test if they are ready. If not, then we shut up and not cause upsets for them. We do not want even to cause storms in a teacup. We need peace.
This assertion by Bo Tien 武 天 that all religions and cultures are trying to bring more to be at peace with life and also with life beyond life. There is need for peace in the moment and in the many moments that follow. There is need for peace in life and in the many lives that follow.
We want peace but do we know how to have this? We think we do but this is when we don't really know. That is why many argue till kingdom come and when they do this, they are not at peace, and do not know or know too little. Isn't this true? Do reflect on the know-how and the do-not.
Silence often is golden and an attitude of give-and-take (much akin to forgiveness) may often be the way out. Often it is not forgiveness because the party whom we think is at fault may be right in his own way. We may be the ones who have erred. We can only hope the other party too has the give-and-take attitude.
To be at peace requires clear thinking. Without inner peace, there can be no clear thinking. Ironically, without clear thinking, there is no peace. The stop gap or interim measure is to remain silent and not fan up any unpleasantness.
One less word even if we cannot be silent will go a long way to ensure that a fire do not end up as a beyond control bushfire that can escalate to engulf a whole forest.
This applies to any aspect of life, be it religion, family or working life. We want peace but often in the heat of the moment, we do not know how to have this.
Just keep the gap shut and not add fuel to fire. Let the fire dissipate and fizzle out. Let there be at least a cooling off period of sorts.
There is the exception when there is no need to keep the gap shut. But we must be perfect with imperfection - peaceful even if there are upheavals. A saint may want to shake up mankind and he can do it well in peace even with those battling among themselves.
But for folks like us, we cannot do so. We are no saviors for ourselves, let alone try to wake up everyone. Saints are different and can keep the peace and change men.
We cannot keep our own peace and what we do may tear our limited peace to pieces and shreds. How can we change people for the better and bring about peace for others?
We want peace but do we know how to do this? Do not be conceited and be carried away and think we can be like the saints and prophets.
If we do what they did, we will undo what they did. Isn't this pathetic? We are no saints - not even a wee bit saintly for now and in the foreseeable future.
That is the reality we must know and be humble about it. Do not exalt ourselves only to be humbled. Do humble ourselves and others will appreciate us better. The humble will be exalted.
